Post Sex Calm

   After thrashing about and tousling through the sheets for minutes or hours or however long it takes you, it seems common these days to both turn over and go to sleep. No cuddling, no talking, no second round of sex--just sleep. I've found this to be true in relationships and random sex. Sex is just sex these days. Get yours and not worry whether your night's partner gets theirs.  There's no connection or love.
   Keep your chin up, lovers. I have found an exception to the unloving act of loving. I've never been too keen on the whole friends with benefits thing. It's messy and complicated and one person always seems to like the other person a little bit more. There are too many fine lines that both parties constantly tip toe on until one of them falls off and the whole friendship is ruined.
  Well, momma always told me to be friends first. Luckily, I have managed to keep up the game for quite some time now. Not only do I want to remain friends and continue to have a weekly or sometimes biweekly slumber party, but I also want to hold dear the connection that he and I have. Sure, it's great to have a physical connection. It's really fucking great. But, to find a person that not only looks into your eyes but into your whole being is extremely rare.
   After thrashing about and tousling through the sheets and both laying there completely bare, panting, heart racing, sweating...and then one of you looks at the other through the darkness that is 3:30 in the morning and starts laughing...and then you laugh. And then, you're both laughing, and neither of you has any idea why. And then, he pulls you to him, and you mold your bodies together, and listen to each other's hearts as the beating slowly returns to normal, and everything in the world is amazing and perfect at that moment. You just lay there, together, chilled by the ceiling fan but warm from each other's body heat. Everything is silent and still. He kisses the top of your head as you slowly trace your fingers in figure eight's on his rib cage.
   This is the post sex calm. Find it and cherish it. You would think that it was love. That we were two people in love, in a relationship. But, we're not. We're just friends, and we reassure each other of that daily.

XOXO

Merekat

   Sleeping With A Friend by Neon Trees